I am really the type of person who is constantly trying to figure out ways to make my life and my families better… over the weekend, I learned a lot, about me, about my words, about my actions. Also about how my concentrating on the “bad”, and not focusing on the good and great, is not productive, it is destructive…
I have been reading the Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin… Find out about the start of “My Happiness Project” by going here.
I am still reading the book and working on how best to start the group. But I am working on little bits of mine now, so I better now how to do the group.
So far a couple things have stuck out to me.
- Every single one of our “Projects” will look different! (WAY AWESOME!)
- I need to figure out how to incorporate my overcoming some big obstacles in to my project. (Gretchen address’ that she hasn’t had any abuse, or things that I have dealt with).
- I LOVE that she researches A LOT!
- I need to make a schedule. (HAHAHHAH how many times have I said this!)
- IT’S time to JUST DO IT!
- I need to focus on the GOOD, not so much the BAD!
- I need to get out of my house and exercise more…..(which I have been doing, and it is making a huge difference.
- I really need to set up a Chore Chart and have a better flowing “schedule” for everyone.
- I need to be more clear on my expectations of others.
But let’s talk about WHY the mind set change! In the first chapter of her book she points out a theory about our brains unconscious mind, how it forms judgments: Here is an excerpt:
Also, according to a current theory of the brain, the unconscious mind does crucial work in forming judgement, motives, and feelings outside our awareness or conscious control, and one factor that influences the work of the unconscious is the “accessibility” of information, or the ease with which it comes to mind. Information that has been recently called up or frequently used in the past is easier to retrieve and therefore energize. The concept of accessibility suggest to me that by constantly reminding myself of certain goals and ideas, I could keep them more active in my mind… -The Happiness Project, by Gretchen Ruben
I reread that paragraph so many times. Because this may be why I have been being so sad, I have been focusing on “Purging” all the BAD stories of my childhood, to the point I think I have lost focus on all the AMAZING things about my LIFE NOW!
While I will write about some of the events of my Childhood, I will start writing more on what I am doing NOW to make my life better! I also found this great quote and it really fits perfectly for where I am at right now
If you don’t leave your past in the past, it will destroy your future. Live for what today has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away.
I know that I am a better person today because of my past, Those are the things I want to share with you, on how, even with a shitty, F-up childhood, doesn’t mean, that NOW we, me and you, can’t have an amazing, beautiful life. We all just need to remember, we are WORTH it! And it’s never too late to have a beautiful life!